Wednesday 22 April 2020

Green Talents – International Forum for High Potentials in Sustainable Development




Green Talents – International Forum for High Potentials in Sustainable DevelopmentABOUT
Every year, the German Federal Ministry of Education and Research (BMBF) hosts the prestigious Green Talents – International Forum for High Potentials in Sustainable Development to promote the international exchange of innovative green ideas from various fields of research. The award, under the patronage of Minister Anja Karliczek, honours young researchers each year. The winners come from numerous countries and scientific disciplines and are recognised for their outstanding achievements in making our societies more sustainable. Selected by a jury of German experts, the award winners are granted unique access to the country’s research elite.
BENEFIT
Are you a young sustainability researcher looking to further develop your innovative ideas? Does your research have the potential to make this earth a better place? Tell us why you should become one of 25 Green Talents this year and take the chance to show us how your research is connected to the Sustainable Development Goals in your application.
ELIGIBILITY
The award is open to all disciplines!
APPLICATION DEADLINE
If you want to join the Green Talents community, apply here for the Green Talents Competition 2020 until 19 May 2020, 2 p.m. CEST
HOW TO APPLY
Application Details Can be Found Here
https://ptoutline.eu/app/greentalents2020

Thursday 16 April 2020

Your partner should never ask you to make these compromises


Although all relationships require a little give-and-take, there’s a line our partners should never cross and boundaries we should never compromise.

Apr 5 · 13 min read
Photo by Davids Kokainis on Unsplash

Relationships as a piece of who we are.

Relationships are powerful, and they have the ability to add or detract from our lives depending on how they are built. When we come into our relationships with equity and understanding, we can find ourselves in mutually beneficial experiences that help us both to grow. When we find ourselves in one-sided or imbalanced relationships, however, we can find ourselves living in fear and giving away little pieces of ourselves.

The things our partners should never ask us to compromise on.

No matter how much you love someone, and no matter how hard life might get — there are certain things that our partners should never ask us to compromise on. These things are critical pieces of who we are, and give us the meaning and direction that keeps us motivated and strong. If your partner is asking you to give these things up or bury them away — beware. Some things in this life aren’t up for auction.

Life goals

No matter what they may be, our partners should never ask us to sacrifice or compromise our longterm goals and dreams. These goals are important, and they can serve as critical milestones on our journey to ultimately realize who we are. If a partner asks you to give up on ideas of a family, a career, or any other “big ticket dream” that is important to you — they’re asking too much.

Personal beliefs

Our personally held beliefs are also an important part of who we are, and can go a long way to guide us through the adverse and chaotic facets of life. These beliefs can include everything from our religion to our political convictions(and whether or not we believe in Santa Claus). It doesn’t really matter how out there or wacky your beliefs might be. As long as they don’t hurt anyone else, you have a right to hold them and your partner should support that.

Self-worth

Self-esteem is what helps us get up in the morning, and it’s the facet of our personality that holds our hand when times get tough. It can do everything from encourage us to go after our dreams, to safeguarding our wellbeing against the attacks of others. When you partner asks you to compromise that confidence and that strength, it’s definitely a sign that’s it time to reassess your relationship and take a second look at things between you.

Friends and family

The loved ones that make up our support networks outside of our relationships are extremely valuable. They provide a shot of perspective to us, and can bolster us and encourage us when things go wrong. They give us another way to see the world, and our partners should encourage us to spend time (both physically and emotionally) with our family and friends. When it becomes a “them or me” scenario, your partner is asking you to compromise too much…and most likely for the wrong reasons.

Basic respect

We all deserve equality and respect, and that’s especially true when it comes to our romantic relationships. Our partnerships are only as good as what both partners bring to the table. If one partner holds all the power, and uses it to belittle and demean the other, you’re not in a partnership. The dominance of one partner over the other destroys our sense of self and limits the relationship by limiting on partner to the worst parts of themselves.

Lines and limits

Our boundaries are a critical part of who we are, and without them we can find ourselves dealing with a number of soul-wrenching heartaches. Boundaries include not only the behavior and treatment that we expect from our partners and spouses (or other people around us); they also include our deal breakers, or bottom lines that can’t be crossed — no question. Our partners should respect those boundaries, and never ask us to compromise them…especially for their own selfish desires.

Personal safety

Personal safety is a big one, but it’s not always one we consider when we’re thinking about compromise in our relationships. If you partner is asking you to engage in behaviors or activities that compromise your personal sense of safety and security, then they are pushing things too far. When we truly love someone, we seek to make them feel more secure not less secure. So be aware when the line is being crossed.

Authentic presence

Authenticity is a crucial step in finding happiness in this life. We should be able — at all stages in this life — to be who we are, without fear of judgement and without having to shift or change the facets of our personality which we like. A partner who asks you to cover up parts of yourself or conceal them away is someone who is intimidated by authenticity, and not to be trusted.

Signs you’re already compromising more than you should.

Compromise is a part of life but it’s not about winner and losers. True compromise is all about giving and taking in unison. It’s about figuring out a middle way to make things work while still keeping hold of your integrity and authenticity. If you’re giving away too much, there are some serious red flags that you shouldn’t ignore.

Second-guessing everything

One of the biggest signs that you might be compromising too much is a habit of second-guessing everything you do. You don’t know who you are anymore, and because you don’t know who you are, you aren’t able to effectively make the right decisions in your life. When confronted with a difficult choice, you run to your partner (or run the other way) and avoid taking the action you need to take by shifting the responsibility to someone else.

Disconnect with passions

Have you stopped doing the things you love? Do you feel as though your partner has forced you out of the pastimes that once brought you joy? When we stop doing the things we love, or thee things that inspire passion, it caan be a major red flag and sign that our partner or spouse is asking too much of us. On a personal level, we need these things to inspire us and keep us motivated. As they bring us joy, they are something our other halves should encourage us to pursue.

Lost sense of self

When we compromise ourselves too much in a relationship, it can cause us to lose all sense of identity and personal value. Little by little, we lean more aand more on our partners, until we don’t know who we are without them. Forced into situations of individual decision, you lose all sense of direction, and feel panicked and isolated beyond repair. Giving away too much of yourself can cause you to lose yourself in horrible and hard-to-reverse ways.

Inability to meet needs

Relying too much on someone else, or giving too much of yourself away, can lead to an inability to meet your own needs. Manipulative or abusivepartners that slowly chip away at you through compromise eventually assume all the control in the relationship. Soon, you find yourself looking to them for everything from affection to self-esteem, and you become crippled and unable to meet even the most basic of your own desires or needs.

Constant resentments abound

If you’ve come to majorly resent your partner, but you can’t quite put your finger on the “why”, it may be a sign that you’re compromising yourself. Even when we give our power away subconsciously, our natural instinct fights against this trading of power in an effort to self-preserve. The more your partner asks of you, the more you come to resent your partner because of the loss of power they represent. This resentment boils to the surface and can push you away to happier (more self-determined) shores.

Steps we can take to protect our personal power right now.

Learning how to cut the compromises short is hard, but not impossible. If you’re someone that shares more than they should, learn how to stick up for yourself by beginning to see the value of your presence and the value of your authentic self. Set some boundaries by using these technique, and get honest about what you need from a partner in order to feel as though the relationship is worthwhile.

1. Get intimate with your emotions

Our emotions are an important piece of the puzzle and often tied into the exchanges of power we share with our partners. When we embrace our emotions, we empower ourselves to see the world for what it is. A healthy dose of reality, facing up to our emotions can also move us to places of strength and assist us in better understanding why we give up so much of who we are.

2. Establish solid boundaries

Empowered by becoming familiar with your emotions, you can then move on to naming and claiming your boundaries. Boundaries are a critical part of building the life we want and the relationships that bring us joy. They define everything from the way we make decisions, to the way we conduct ourselves within a romantic partnersihps. They’re everything, but when we drop those boundaries or allow someone to take advantage of them — we canfind ourselves lost and struggling to find meaning.

3. Start taking responsibility for your feelings

Being familiar with your emotions and taking responsibility for them are two very different things. Emotions can be powerful and scary, and even when we know them for what they are it can be hard to voice them or stand up for them. This comes down to the emotions of others too, however, and the fear around their emotional responses that we have to learn how to release.

4. Be familiar with your values

Our values are a critical piece of who we are, because they guide what we believe, and they impact how we see ourselves and how we behave and react in the world around us. Values mean a lot, and they provide a lot of structure to our lives. Only when we honor their importance and apply them — honestly — to our lives can we begin the growth processes we so desperately seek.

5. Free your self-worth

Confidence is key in creating the life you want, but it’s something that can get worn away over time. When we lose ourselves in constant compromise with our partners, it can cause us to rely on them forany sliver of self-worth, and it can make it even more impossible to see ourselves as independent, capable and sovereign individuals in our own lives.

6. Sever ties with your victimhood

Spending a long time giving up your power can perpetuate a state of victimhood that is truly toxic and self-destructive. Though we might be the victims of omeone who took advantage, victimhood is a state of “poor me” that eliminates all personal responsibility while also removing us from the game of life. While you might think that playing up your victimhood will lead to resolution — it won’t. It will remove even more power of choice from your life and strip you further of any sense of self and purpose.

Putting it all together…

Compromise is important in a relationship, but when does it go too far? If our partners are asking us to sacrifice important pieces of ourselves or bury our authenticity down deep, it’s a sign that something isn’t quite what it seems. Healthy and happy relationships are equal ones, but that’s something that takes an equal amount of work from both parties; and stepping up to the plate for our own needs.

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